S: Mr. November FTW aka Sheila is Off the Market

I have just pulled my profile off of OkCupid.

Mr. November has won.

There will be no Mr. December. I'm not even going to be cynical enough to believe there is the possibility that things with Mr. November could go down in flames before the end of the month.

I may have thrown up on a few of the loop-the-loops, but the thrills were worth the ride. I'm back on the roller coaster.

And I can promise you already that this one will have far fewer scary drops.

I guess I have to turn in my Spinster card again.

With a GIANT smile on my face.

J: Yoo-hoo…Mr. December???

Will there be a Mr. December? I’m thinking maybe not.

With the big holiday and the general stress and emotion around being alone that all of us singles feel, I don’t know how many guys are really looking for a first date this month.

Also, with my switch over to eHarmony, things have slowed waaaaay down. Mainly because of their torturous “guided communication” process where you have to go through 5 million different stages of communication before you can actually email back and forth and get a feeling for who the guy really is…as well as show a bit of personality, yourself.

I’ve had over 170 “matches” so far and not one of them has gotten to that “open communication” stage.

Granted, I haven’t actually begun communication with even a fraction of those 170 matches.

Most of them are awful. Terrible. At least from their profile…(or honestly…from their pictures.) But, I’m still trying to keep moving forward with those that I’ve started the process with…and I’ll keep trying.

But, realistically…finding a Mr. December via the eHarmony route isn’t looking all that promising.

I have been flirty with a guy that I’ve been dancing with lately. We were chatting about facebook and at one point he said “didn’t we talk about this already” and I said “We don’t really talk, we yell” (in reference to the fact that we only talk when we’re dancing because when we’re around each other, it’s always in a dancing setting) and THEN I threw out the “we should go to dinner or something…I want to hear your story” comment (yes…one that I’ve been planning for a week or so) and he immediately agreed with me but then we both were distracted and the conversation didn't go any further.

So, now, we’ll see if he takes the bait. I’ve put my neck out a bit…it’s his turn to take it the rest of the way. If he does…great! If not…oh well, I guess.

Because, honestly, I’m not all that worried about actually finding a December. While I’ve hit every single other month of this challenge, I’m not feeling a driving need to claim a December date. For the year, I’ve gone out with 13 guys already. Isn’t a good baker’s dozen enough?

Obviously, I’m not going to say no if the new dancing guy actually asks me out for coffee. And I’ll keep working that dismal eHarmony scene.

But, if I just don’t find anyone worthy of the title of “Mr. December"…I’m thinking that I'm not going to lose any sleep over it.